“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, even have enough.” Oprah Winfrey
I am missing Mom a lot this weekend. It has been about four and a half years since her death, and some days it feels like just yesterday. She always enjoyed a good pork roast, so I enjoyed one today in her honor. I think Mom would have liked that.
As I reflected on my memories with Mom over the years, I realized how grateful I am to have had as much time with her as I did. She was 91 when she died. I am especially grateful for her love of life, good sense of humor, and appreciation of animals and gardens–these are attitudes I inherited from her, I’m sure. I am also grateful that she (and Dad!) were alert and engaged until the end, not in pain or connected to machines.
I am very aware today that there is so very much to appreciate. Here is a list that names but a few items:
The hummingbirds that are starting to buzz around the feeders hung by my neighbors!
The delightful spring that is underway right now. My favorite little trek to search for spring thus far this year was to the Carrizo Plain.
Some good books are sitting on my kindle, waiting for me to read them, including A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness, House Made of Dawn by N. Scott Momaday, and a delightful collection of stories called Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls.
My apartment complex management are really nice, worthy of appreciation. They have added a little cement sidewalk outside my apartment door to make it easier for me to maneuver my new little travel scooter in and out. How cool is that? They also do not just remind us to change the filters in our AC units, they provide the filters.
I always appreciate a good sense of humor as it helps make every day irritations tolerable. For example, I know I need to take water pills to help keep my blood pressure from getting too high. But if I do not laugh at having to jump up like a pop-goes-the-weasel every 30 minutes or so, I would really go crazy. And that would not be good.
Of course, I appreciate having family and friends who are there for me—and who I have the time to play with fairly often. My recent trip to Vegas for my sister’s birthday was not even bogged down with bad traffic. And I was able to use my new little travel scooter, which I will write about eventually. On one day, we took a walk and fed some bunnies!
Holidays are bittersweet now that Mom and Dad are both gone, but good memories overshadow the grief more and more often. If you are celebrating with your Mom on this holiday, make sure you give her a hug and tell her you love her. Overlook the silly little things that can often get in the way of just enjoying your loved ones.
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A FEW QUOTES ON APPRECIATION
“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive—to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love—and then make that day count!” Steve Maraboli
“Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.” Voltaire
“Love is made up of three unconditional properties in equal measure: 1. Acceptance, 2. Understanding, 3. Appreciation. Remove any one of the three and the triangle falls apart. Which, by the way, is something highly inadvisable. Think about it—do you really want to live in a world of only two dimensions? So, for the love of a triangle, please keep love whole.” Vera Nazarian
“The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
What do you appreciate on this Mother’s Day?